Various occurences in our life effects our self esteem on a daily basis. Positive things cause an increase in our levels of self esteem and how we feel about ourselves, whilst the negative events in our life have the opposite effect. We strive for positive events to help keep our levels of self esteem constant, so we can control our temper and reactions to life.

Our home and family life has a large effect on our self esteem levels. Our relationship with our partner, our relationship with siblings and other members of our family have a huge effect on self esteem as we go through our life. What we gain from a good family life helps us maintain self esteem levels as we deal with the various challenges that life brings. Having the solid foundation a good family brings gives you stability in your feelings about yourself.

Those from a challenging personal background are more likely to blame life for negative events that happen to them. This is because their self esteem is impacted negatively because of their hardship. Their feeling of upset is made worse by the fact that deep down their low levels of self esteem makes them feel that they somehow deserve suffering. Those with higher self esteem and self worth have a larger desire to fight.

The way to improve your self esteem is to focus on positive things and specifically things that you do particularly well. This helps you when you are faced with a moment of difficulty, recalling that you excel in a particular area of life, for example sport or a subject at school can give you the hope that is required to fight to improve during this difficulty. Despite being under stress, your self esteem will not suffer because you are remembering what you do best.

If you have ever watched the Apprentice you will have observed individuals with incredible self belief. It is easy to question whether this self confidence they have is genuine because often they do not get this confidence from any tangible achievement. Confidence can be faked, whilst self esteem is always at a genuine level inside you. Whether you appear confident to others or not, you will know deep inside what you feel about yourself, and this feeling will either have a positive or negative effect on you.

During adolescence self belief is an area of our lives that we debate fiercely. How teenagers feel about themselves can be a battleground of emotion. Young woman in particular are plagued by thoughts about their weight, what others think about them and all of these emotions impact on their feelings about themselves, and their self esteem. As a parent, the biggest challenge is working out whether the happy child is really happy and is not carrying inner turmoil around inside as their personal feelings towards themselves develop.

It is possible for you to feel good about one area of your life and not so good about another as you know. Providing the focus is on positive things that you either achieve, or plan to achieve you can prevent the negative thoughts from having a negative impact on your life. Your self esteem will be maintained and you can carry out your daily life with a positive outlook, rather than feeling depressed.

It is a lot more desirable to have a consistent feeling of self esteem rather than high fluctuations. Many young people have very high levels of feeling, like mania and low levels of unbearable depression. Some of lifes bad experiences like assault etc can be avoided by keeping on an even level of emotion and feeling. The development of consistent self esteem will allow you to gain a more rounded personality and keep you in control of your future development.