Infidelity – one partner cheating on the other, is one of the biggest causes of relationship breakups. If your mate cheated on you, or you on them, you know it feels like a bomb went off in the relationship. Because when trust is damaged, one person almost always feel like I can never trust him/her again.

Trust is an essential part of close, intimate, real love. When it is broken, we feel (for a while) like there is no hope for getting it back. Even if we loved much about our mate, if they cheated on us, we dont see how we could ever be happy again with them, how could we trust them after such a sense of betrayal.

So in order for the relationship to continue, trust needs to be restored. Fortunately, it can be, and it can start to happen in just minutes. Here’s how:

A Deep Apology is necessary. Not an easy to brush off apology, but a true, deep apology. There are different levels of apologizing, and most people don’t realize this. A Deep Apology is powerful.

Deep Apologies are the kinds of apologies needed to begin to restore trust once it has been broken. Deep Apologies are much more than saying Im sorry, no matter how much you mean it.

Deep Apologies involve several different steps. One step is to accept blame for what you did, and another important step is to mirror the emotional pain or damage you caused your mate by cheating on them. I think I made you feel ashamed and broken-hearted is a mirroring statement that helps your mate feel deeply understood.

There are some other things you need to do for a deep apology. However, don’t just say “I’m sorry” and expect trust to be restored. It doesn’t work that way. And, a good deep apology involves listening to your mate as much as speaking.

If, on the other hand, you were the one who got cheated on, there is a way to get a deep apology from your mate that can help you to release your hurt feelings and begin to restore trust beginning in just minutes. There’s a lot more to this, but at least understand that if you are dealing with broken trust there are some ways to begin to restore it so you can save your relationship.